Turkey minus the politics: How to avoid arguments on Thanksgiving
As Thanksgiving approaches, many Americans are gearing up to gather with family and friends to share a meal and give thanks.
However, it can also be a time when political debates arise, especially on the heels of a heated presidential election.
But Elizabeth Dorrance Hall, an assistant professor of communication at Michigan State University, said this year’s holiday could likely be "business as usual."
"Polarizing topics can come up around the dinner table any year/any time," Hall told FOX Television Stations. "In fact, people may be more inclined to avoid talking about politics this year if they know some family members are upset about the results. It really depends on the communication dynamics of the family (whether they are conflict avoiders or like to engage in conflict)."
Thankfully, experts say there are ways to keep the peace and ensure that the biggest disagreement is over who gets the turkey leg or dark meat.
Set the tone early
If you’re the host, experts say you can gently remind guests that Thanksgiving is about gratitude, not grievances. Consider suggesting a lighthearted topic – like everyone sharing something they’re thankful for – to set a positive tone.
Set your goals
Hall said it may also be a good idea to set your goals for the holiday.
"Do you want to feel connected to family? Engage in conflict? Or have a harmonious meal?," Hall continued, adding, "Keeping your goals in mind will help you choose what to say, when, and to whom."
Use humor
If someone starts veering into contentious territory, experts say you can pivot the discussion with humor or a neutral question.
Humor strategist and author of The Humor Habit, Paul Osincup encourages people to use humor to get through the election season without harm. When the conversation at the Thanksgiving dinner table starts getting intense, you can use humor to redirect the focus to a safer common target.
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In addition, Hall said it can be helpful to think about conversation topics that the whole family will enjoy ahead of time.
"What funny old stories could you tell or ask a family member to recount? What family events are you looking forward to in 2025? Have a few of these conversation starters in your back pocket and pull them out if a lighthearted conversation is needed," she added.
Focus on asking questions
Experts also say it may be helpful to approach Turkey Day with a "curious mindset."
"Approach dinner conversations as a time to get to know your family members better and establish a sense of connection. Listen to understand and not to judge or make your next point," Hall explained.
Know when to step away
If tensions rise, you can always take a breather.
Experts say a walk around the block or a quiet moment in the kitchen can be all that is needed to reset.
With these tips in mind, hopefully the only thing simmering is the gravy.