Alone for the holidays? This can help
For many, the holidays are a time of connection, family, and celebration. But for those spending the season alone, it can be a period filled with loneliness and self-reflection. While it’s natural to feel this way, experts agree there are ways to cope and even thrive during the holidays.
Why the holidays feel harder when you're alone
The festive season often highlights emotions, both positive and negative. According to Men’s Health, media depictions of joyous family gatherings can make being single or alone feel especially difficult. For some, this time of year also brings grief or reminders of lost relationships.
However, meditation app Headspace notes, loneliness and being alone are not the same. Loneliness is an emotional state, while being alone is a physical reality. By reframing your mindset, it’s possible to turn solitude into an opportunity for self-care, mindfulness, and growth.
Strategies to embrace the holidays alone
If you’re anticipating a solo holiday season, these expert-backed tips can help transform your experience:
- Set realistic expectations: It’s easy to romanticize the holidays, but not every celebration looks like a Hallmark movie. Men’s Health advises focusing on small, positive moments instead of what’s missing. Reframe the holidays as a time for new experiences or personal reflection.
- Practice gratitude: Starting a gratitude journal or simply reflecting on what you’re thankful for can shift your focus to the positives in your life. PsychCentral highlights research showing gratitude improves mental health and helps alleviate feelings of loneliness.
- Connect with others: Whether it’s attending a community event, organizing a "friendsgiving" with neighbors, or reaching out virtually to loved ones, making connections can ease feelings of isolation. Headspace reminds us that even small interactions, like saying hello to a neighbor, can foster a sense of belonging.
- Volunteer your time: Giving back during the holidays benefits not only others but also yourself. From working at food drives to sending cards to seniors, PsychCentral emphasizes that acts of service can provide a sense of purpose and connection.
- Develop new traditions: Rituals can bring comfort and continuity during transitions. Men’s Health recommends evaluating which traditions you want to keep and creating new ones that align with your current life. This could include baking a favorite dessert, starting a movie marathon, or planning a trip.
- Embrace mindfulness: According to Headspace, mindfulness can help you be present with your emotions instead of trying to escape them. Meditation and self-compassion exercises can ease loneliness by fostering a sense of inner peace and kindness toward yourself.
- Treat yourself: Self-care is essential during the holidays. Whether it’s indulging in a favorite meal, buying something special, or simply resting, PsychCentral suggests prioritizing what brings you joy and peace.
The dangers of 'Blackout Wednesday'
The day before Thanksgiving is one of the biggest drinking days of the year, and it's referred to as "Blackout Wednesday." That's when everyone is home from college, going out with old friends and drinking. It also brings some danger, not only for others but yourself, and that could mean short term and long term consequences. Chief Thea Pirnat with the Leesburg VA Police Department joined LiveNOW from FOX to discuss.
When to seek professional help
Sometimes, the holidays can bring up deeper emotional challenges. If feelings of sadness or loneliness persist, experts recommend consulting a mental health professional. Chronic loneliness is often linked to conditions like depression and anxiety, which can be addressed with therapy and other resources.
The holidays are a short season, but the strategies you use to navigate them can have a lasting impact. By embracing mindfulness, gratitude, and connection, you can turn a solo holiday into an opportunity for growth and self-discovery.